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In this episode, we are chatting about something we can all relate to at one point or another, and that is breakups. Breakups can be notoriously hard on your mental health and can have a huge impact on your self-esteem and day-to-day life.
Learn how to get through these difficult times and manage your mental health as I talk with Amalia Miralrío.
Amalia is a therapist who specializes in helping women, queer, and trans individuals overcome the belief that they have to be perfect to be lovable after a breakup. Her private practice is based in Detroit, Michigan and she is serving Michigan and Pennsylvania virtually.
If you are dealing with a heartbreak, discover how you can heal in healthy ways. Find out the tips and tricks to manage your day-to-day life and rebuild your self-esteem and confidence after getting dumped or parting ways.
We also talk about money conflicts in relationships that commonly lead to breakups and how to avoid that.
Being single/alone has its benefits and Amalia shares how you can take advantage of that to grow and move on and when you should start dating again.
What You Will Learn From This Episode
- The healing process after a breakup
- How to let go of the lost dreams/fantasies
- How to take advantage of the benefits of being alone/free
- Ways to rebuild self-esteem and confidence after getting dumped
- What are the money issues that lead to breakups
- When you should start dating again
“It’s normal for it to be hard and you’re wired for it to be hard; for that disruption to be painful.” – Amalia Miralrío
“You’re already good enough. You’re already a whole person. It’s just about caring for that person.” – Amalia Miralrío
“I absolutely believe you can get to a place of seeing the end of the relationship as a misalignment of values, as something that wasn’t compatible and it’s not about one person not being good enough for the other person.” – Amalia Miralrío
“You might be working extra hard to try to avoid the pain but, the only way out is through.” – Amalia Miralrío
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Timestamps
2:34 – The two parts in a breakup and in the healing process
4:23 – Melanie’s breakup from a nine-year relationship and the importance of having a support system
7:30 – Overcoming the shame that you may feel after a breakup plus tips on how to take care of yourself
9:15 – How to get through emotional landmines
12:58 – Tips to help you heal and let go of the lost dreams/fantasies
16:18 – What is Sunk Cost Fallacy and how it hinders you from moving on
19:50 – How to take advantage of being alone/free and grow
24:58 – Ways to boost your self-esteem after getting dumped
29:07 – How Melanie rebuilt her self-love and confidence after her breakup
31:35 – Why people break up over money
34:13 – When is the best time to start dating again
38:01 – The importance of knowing your attachment style for future dating/relationship
Resources
- The Runaway Bride
- Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
- The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships by Diane Poole Heller
- How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Mental and Financial Health in a Relationship: An Interview with Ginger Dean of Loving Me After We
Connect with Amalia
Connect with Melanie
- mentalhealthandwealth.com
- melanielockert.com
- Contact: mentalhealthandwealthshow@gmail.com
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